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How can I get over this girl?

How can I get over this girl?
I knew her since August 07, she used to sit next to me in my class. I changed schools in March 08, and I barely talked to her since. Not that I ever talked to her much either. We were just classmates. Anyway, now it’s March 09, and she has a Boyfriend and they’ve been dating for a year or so and I can’t stop thinking about her. Ever since I’ve seen her I’ve been in love, and I haven’t liked any other girls since then. Not even any supermodels I see on TV or magazines I can compare with her…even though not everyone might think so, I do. She’s pretty good looking, and has a good personality.

Hey Roman S! This is my advice for you. I know it is very long but please read it all since i took the time to write it. It only takes like a few mins.

The ONLY way to get over her is to tell her how u feel and ask whether she is willing to give you a shot even though both of u are not close and do not know each other too well. Because if you don’t tell her that, she would never know you felt that way and hence would never give u a shot. If you don’t tell her how u feel and keep trying to forget about her and keep trying to move on despite the feelings u have for her (u think about her everyday and u haven’t liked any other girls since then—-this is massive!), there will never ever be closure and u will keep wondering whether there could have been more in store for the both of you like a gf/bf relationship. Who knows, both of you could have been a great couple and could have shared many good times and memories! And if in the end, the couple thing doesn’t work, then both of you could stay lifelong friends!

I know u said that both of u r not so close since u didn’t talk to her much and since u r in diff schools now but going to the same college in the future.

I have one idea for u that might definitely work. It did work for me and my friends. You could send her an email reminding her in detail who u r first and asking her how she is. Then COPY AND PASTE the EXACT paragraph that u typed on Yahoo Answers. Tell her in the email to read the following paragraph. After this paragraph, mention in the email that the guy in the paragraph is you and that girl is she. Then in the email you can say this may come as a surprise to her but it is true. In the email you can then ask her what she thinks about it and whether she could give u a shot or hangout with u first to see if there is chemistry between both of u and to see what happens. Then end the email by asking her to reply via email or calling no matter what her answer is. Any girl would find that very flattering and would definitely give u a direct and honest answer back via email.

Just a thought just in case u r shy to tell her face to face!

Another idea is a very junior-high school approach but could be effective. Just tell your friends in your old school to pass the word onto her discretely, like as a passing remark. You could instruct your friends to tell her u have a crush on her even though u moved on to a new school and even though both of u r not close. Your friends could also mention that you don’t know how to approach her and also mention that they were meant to keep it as a secret .Your friends could maybe suggest to her to contact you and make the first move by telling you what she knows and set a time and place for a date or hangout with u.Thats what friends are there for and I’m pretty sure you would do the same for them !!!

Another way to approach her would be to to hangout with her and friends that both of u know from your old school at the cinema, minigolf, theme park. parks with picnics and games, restaurant, sports game etc. to catch up and have fun. You could hangout several more times like this with her and friends until you become closer to her then you could tell her how u feel and ask her to give u a shot. This approach takes a long while and you may not be that patient since you have these feelings for her for a very long time already. I don’t suggest this route.

If u want to tell her directly by calling or emailing her or meeting her in person but what is keeping you from doing this is your shyness and fear of rejection, this is what i have to say: EVERY SINGLE PERSON in the world feels stressed and anxious about confessing to their crush because about what their crush might think and the fact that the crush might give an answer u don’t want to hear like “This is very flattering and u r a smart and sweet guy but i am not interested at the moment and we can still be friends”.

For me, i don’t care at all if I get rejected or how many times i get rejected. I am a 21 yr old female. I just can’t handle the fact that I like someone and they are on my mind all the time and me wondering about What Ifs and What- could-have- happened- it’s torturous and drives me crazy. Even if I get rejected, at least there is closure and he can get out of my mind and i finally have a peace of mind. So go for it. And don’t have any regrets.*No* from her is the only worst thing that could happen if u tell her about ur crush and it’s not the end of the world. If her answer is negative, don’t take it personally at all. No one likes to be a bf/gf with a person they don’t have feelings for. That goes the same for u— You wouldn’t like to be a bf to a girl u don’t have feelings for. If she says no, she might change her mind in the future after hanging out with u more and getting to know u more.

Try not to make the confession a big deal cos that would make u nervous and if she says no, you would feel even more shitty.

If things don’t work out, i know u will feel shitty and sad and hurt but just keep urself happy, busy and distracted with college, hobbies and sports and u will move on eventually as it is a fact that time heals all wounds. Trust me, there is always a nicer, better-looking, smarter, more talented, more good hearted gal out there in the world that you havent met yet who would sweep u off ur feet just like the way your current crush does…or even more!

Hope this helps! Go get her! Believe. Good luck ) And please try my email idea! It worked for me and my friends!

It’d be great if u told me the outcome by clicking email in my Yahoo Answer profile page. I like to hear endings.

Bran Van 3000 – Supermodel